Seriously, what is this peri-menopause phase?

Let’s Talk About Peri-Menopause—Because It's Not the End. It's a Rebirth.

First, to the men reading this: please stay with me. We need you. Whether you live with a woman, have a sister, daughter, partner, or mother—this affects your life too. Hormones are not just a “women’s issue.”

Now, let’s get real.

In the past year, it feels like we suddenly “discovered” peri-menopause. Cue the panic:
What’s happening?
Are we broken? Too old? Too emotional? Too loud?

Yes, I’m being sarcastic—because peri-menopause isn’t new. Women have been going through it since the beginning of time. What’s new is: we’re no longer willing to suffer silently.

We’ve accepted the pain of periods. We’ve learned to birth babies. We’ve focused on fertility—because, let’s be honest, it’s profitable. But peri-menopause? No one wanted to talk about it, let alone support it.

Instead, we were called crazy. Put on antidepressants. Told to shrink, stay quiet, and “deal with it.”

Well, not anymore.

Because here’s the truth: peri-menopause is a transition, not a breakdown.
Our bodies aren’t failing us—they’re finally asking to rest. And that’s amazing news.

Why?
Because it means freedom.
Freedom from the stress of pregnancy.
Freedom from birth control.
Freedom to finally put ourselves first.

Every woman I know in her 40s and beyond is saying the same thing:
“I’ve never had a better sex life.”
Why? Because we’re owning our bodies again. We’re reclaiming them. We’re no longer “on pause” waiting—for a man, a baby, a role to fill.

We’re done giving our bodies away to create life.
Now, our bodies become our priority and our property.
And that, my friends, is power.

Yes, it’s a re-adaptation. But we’re women. We’ve adapted before. We’ve done hard things. We’ve been bleeding, birthing, breaking, rebuilding—and now it’s time to set new boundaries, say no, and finally, put ourselves first.

And yes, that can feel scary. Because claiming your true self is no small thing. Reclaiming your voice, your body, your time—it’s a shift in identity. But it’s also incredibly sexy.

To the men:
Isn’t it sexy to be with a woman who knows who she is and refuses to settle for less?
We don’t want to be rescued. We want to be met—fully, powerfully, honestly.

Now, let me add one more thing:
Yes, I’ve been freaked out by peri-menopause too. Our bodies are changing. But they always have been.
From our first period to now, it’s all been a dance of hormones. The only difference is this: our hormones are gradually stepping back—and our adrenals are stepping in.

Remember when we were 7 to 13? We grew. We gained weight and height. We became.
This is just another phase of becoming.

Sure, if we don’t care for ourselves, there can be fatigue, anxiety, weight gain. But if we listen, nourish, rest, and ask for what we need—this can be a powerful, graceful shift.

Let’s stop feeding the fear.
Let’s stop buying into the shame.
Let’s stop letting society tell us we’re “too much” or “past our prime.”

We’re not fading—we’re evolving.
So educate yourself. Find a doctor who sees you. Build a circle of girlfriends who get it.
And above all—learn to say no.

We've got this.
And we’re just getting started.

Much Love, 
Marine Sélénée